Grief ~ The Gateway To Grace
Have you ever thought of Grief as a Gateway to Grace?
In our society grief is often viewed as something to be avoided or pushed through.
I believe that a healthy understanding of grief can enhance all your relationships.
If you have read my book Enchanted One: The Portal To love, you know how grief acted as my gateway to Oneness which is a state of Higher Consciousness embraced by Grace.
In a recent interview with Tim Emerson, I shared five steps to help you turn your grief into grace.
Listen to the full interview here.
Five Steps To Grieving Your Way To Grace:
Surrender into your feelings.
Honor the emotions of sadness, anger and loss. In our current society, we do not always allow ourselves time to experience the full spectrum of emotions especially the uncomfortable ones.
Allowing yourself the time and space to indulge these emotions is essential. Find support from those who are willing to sit with you in your sadness.
Release Limiting Beliefs
From an early age we are indoctrinated with beliefs about life and death.
Many of these beliefs were passed down to us when we were not paying attention.
I remember as a young child my parents arranged for me to speak with our minister because I was grieving the loss of our dog.
I clearly remember sitting with my pastor as he told me that dogs do not have souls and therefore Misty would not be in heaven. I looked him straight in the eye and said I not interested in going to a heaven that did not welcome dogs.
This did not actually shift my love for God. Rather it taught me that I had to know God myself and not through other’s beliefs.
Explore the beliefs that frame your perspective of death, afterlife and communication with the non-physical. Consciously choose the beliefs that resonate with you today.
Allow loved ones to continue to grow
Because we are human, we tend to think that life ends at death.
This is not the case. Holding our loved ones to who they were when they died or is not honoring of the truth of who they are.
Just last week my beloved dog of 13 years died. After immersing myself in the sadness and feeling of loss, I was ready to begin my new relationship with him in spirit.
Much to my surprise my Springer Spaniel reveled to me his soul which is a very large white light being.
I was looking for a pup running in a field and to be honest I do still want to remember him also in his canine form, but I wont limit him to that form. Moving forward, he can and will be a part of my life in both forms.
Honor the small losses along the way.
We think of grief as a reaction to loss through death. In truth our lives are made up of many forms of grief. We grieve the changing forms of relationships, the selling of a home, the toddler who is suddenly an adult.
Approaching midlife, we may grieve the person we were as a teenager or the body that once had more vitality. Learning to honor the natural flow of grief in our lives allows us to embrace life more fully in each moment.
Let your relationship transform
Continuing your relationship with loved ones after they have crossed is important.
As you move through your initial feelings of grief, a space will open for you to remember that your loved ones are still with you in spirit.
Allowing yourself to open to this new form of relationship and communication will support you in living from this state of grace.
This guided meditation is designed to support you in continuing your relationship with loved ones after they have crossed.